postheadericon Successful Dating Through Accumulating Value

When companies acquire assets what they really want to do is accumulate value. Value is key because without it, objects lose worth and they end up meaning nothing to people. The same principle of value accumulation can also be applied to the world of dating says Rampant Man. At the end of the day, what girls really want is to be with someone they can be proud of, someone they can show off to their friends and family members. It goes the other way as well since men want a girl that they can also present quite proudly to the people they know. Rampant Man believes that the best way to become desirable lies in also becoming more valuable.

Value in the dating world could be broken down into two simple segments. There is the value drawn from being powerful, and the value drawn from being attractive. They may be two separate avenues of value, but they are both very important according to Rampant Man.

Power is somewhat difficult to define in the dating world, but Rampant Man suggests that it is all about being a prominent member of society. Women are going to be inevitably attracted to a man that exudes power, but in order to be identified as one, a certain level of fame still needs to be reached. This is not the type of fame that translates to movie roles or anything like that; it is simply the type of fame that alerts people to the fact that this person is a step above in terms of his standing in life. Women begin to gravitate towards a man once they see traces of that fame, and there yet again is where power becomes a part of the equation. Fame is just another way to term power in the dating world, and the more of it a man can accumulate, the more success he can also have in this environment.

postheadericon Is Your Spouse Cheating On You With Another Valentine?

Valentines Day is truly one of the most romantic days of the year and I have little doubt that it helps some couples rekindle their love for each other annually. The smell of fresh roses and chocolate and the sight of diamonds and lingerie are common on this special day.

Unfortunately for some couples there is infidelity going on and a spouse cheating with another Valentine is par for the course.

You should be able to trust that you are the one and only Valentine but because we know that infidelity exist, you need to be aware of what’s going on in your relationship. Don’t make the mistake of ignoring the signs that you see that’s causing you to think that your spouse is cheating.

Signs Your Spouse Is Cheating Or Might Be Having An Affair

  1. Your spouse finds reasons to stay out late and can’t make time for you, even on Valentines Day.
  2. You notice that your spouse has changed pass words on his or her phone or social media sites and has not shared the updated passwords with you.
  3. The credit card balances are slowly inching upwards and you no longer have access to the details.
  4. Your spouse suddenly begins to change their style of clothes and has a need to look younger and more attractive.
  5. Your spouse is very secretive when talking on the phone or surfing the internet.

What If Your Spouse Is Cheating?

I know it’s easy to say what you will do if you ever caught your spouse cheating. However, when it really happens it’s a lot more difficult to handle. So many questions and emotions have to be dealt with if you are not your spouse’s one and only valentine.

If your spouse is cheating, it’s important to make sure that he or she knows that you know. There is no benefit to letting your spouse carry-on with the affair and dig a deeper hole in your marriage.

What I would recommend is that you make sure you have enough evidence so that your spouse can’t deny that you are not the one and only Valentine. Although you can use your intuition to approach your spouse about the possible cheating, it’s better to know for sure. This way you don’t put a barrier up between the two of you.

Is Your Marriage Over If It’s True?

If your spouse has been unfaithful, then you probably have been struggling to make sense of it all. The first thought that pops into most folks head is, “our marriage is over”.

Well, believe it or not your marriage can survive infidelity if you and your spouse are willing to work together and be honest and transparent with one another.

With the right attitude and heart adjustment, your cheating spouse will no longer desire another Valentine. You will need to learn how to forgive and love again the person who betrayed you. Again it won’t be easy but you will be stronger and wiser once you get through this.

postheadericon How to Cure Premature Ejaculation From Home? 6 Easy Tips to Last Longer Tonight

Premature ejaculation can leave you feeling hopeless. If you feel like you’ll never be able to have a good sex life because of your premature ejaculation problem, you are not alone. You are one of millions of men who are frustrated with their stamina and feel like there is no solution. There is an answer. If you want to know how to cure premature ejaculation from home you will find all you need to know is in this article. From how your diet could be making you a quick draw, to how to lengthen your sex sessions without losing control, you will become a sex master. Professionals like porn stars get the benefits of being able to stop when they need to and edit out shots where they just can’t handle the heat anymore. You don’t get that option. Here they lay out how they last under pressure so they can make the big bucks and you can reap the benefits by showing your woman you know how to blow her mind.

  1. Sleep. It might seem simple, but this tip is key. You need eight hours of rest if you’re going to perform like a champion. If you can’t get in a full sleep, take a nap.
  2. Masturbate. You need to get out your first shot an hour or so before you plan on getting lucky. This is the most effective way you can avoid premature ejaculation. Your next orgasm will take longer and this will give you the edge you need in the bedroom.
  3. Eat. You need your energy if you want to have stamina like a pro. Make sure you get the carbs and protein you need. Eat like you’re planning on hitting the field for the big game. This will help your body stay in control and dominate between the sheets.
  4. Tingling Lubricant. What you don’t see behind the scenes are the tools of the trade. Tingling lubricant is one of the best tools out there because it numbs your tool and gives her extra pleasure.
  5. Switch Positions. Pros don’t just change positions constantly for the camera, they use this as a secret way to last longer. By changing positions when you feel like you’re about to come, you give your body a much needed break. You can pull out, catch your breath and you get her feeling more sensations and getting hotter faster.
  6. Foreplay. They don’t roll the cameras the minute the girls walk into the door. Now Pro’s don’t have to get their costars warmed up because the girls are pros themselves, but you at home definitely do. Spend as much time as you can getting her all hot and bothered. Tease her as much as possible. Start off with using your fingers or even get her close to her orgasm using oral sex, and stop right as she’s about to explode. You won’t ruin the moment, but have it perfectly timed so that when you do penetrate her, she explodes, and you finish right at the perfect moment.

There you have it, how to cure premature ejaculation from home. You can take control and rock her socks off without spending hundreds of dollars on weird machines and pills. Avoid chemicals and keep your body healthy. You’ll have her begging for more, and you’ll be able to give it to her every time by using these six easy steps from the pro’s. Be a champion and master your orgasm tonight.

postheadericon The Pros and Cons Regarding Snooping On A Unfaithful Mate

No one wants to believe there spouse is cheating on them but it happens. Yet believing is not enough. Before confronting your spouse you need proof of wrongdoing. How do you get it? You could hire a private detective or you could do swome spying on your own. Keep in mind there are advantages and disadvantages to going this route.

One of the drawbacks is the amount of time it may take to come up with that evidence. You might presume that your own husband or wife is actually having an extramarital affair on a weekly basis but that may not be the case. It may be quite difficult to get a feel for when your spouse is hooking up with the other person.

More to the point this may be a long drawn out process that may become very exasperating. This is why you might want to give some thought to using a private investigator.

Yet another disadvantage to snooping on a cheating wife or husband is the fact it can be costly. To thoroughly record the affair for divorce proceedings you must obtain proof. This confirmation may mean the purchase of a video recorder or a digital camera. You might also find yourself taking time off from your job to spy on your mate. This goes for time spent away from your children as well.

There is one thing to take into consideration if you decide on your spouse and that is you could get caught. Now you can take some precautions like maintaining a reasonable distance using a different vehicle and maybe wearing some sort of disguise. However more than anything you should have some kind of back up plan in case you do get caught by your spouse.

You must also consider the safety factor. Your mate may be cheating in some area of the city that is crime ridden. If your husband or wife is known for their jealousy, physical or emotional abuse, you may end up putting yourself in serious danger if you were to ever get caught For that reason be sure to at all times let someone know where you are going. You should have a cellphone with you at all times.

While there are some serious disadvantages to spying on your mate there is one major upside and that is it will eliminate all doubt as to whether your spouse is being unfaithful. If you decide that the marriage is over and wish to start divorce proceedings he or she will have handed you all the proof you need.

If you would like to carry out the spying on your own as an alternative to employing a private investigator please ensure that you utilize your common sense and best judgement. Always err on the side of caution. No matter how much you want to know that your spouse is having an affair it is important to be safe. Endangering your safety is not worth it.

postheadericon The Top Reasons Why Men Cheat

Why do men cheat? They make movies about it, write books on it and just about every other day you can turn on the TV and watch some talk show host discussing the topic. Or you may turn on the television and watch a reality show where a two timing guy is confronted by his wife or girlfriend or both. You sit back and get entertained as the sparks fly and they tear into each other. Is he the baby’s father? Stay tuned to find out.

Even after the dust is settled the question is still out there. It’s important to understand there is no one size fits all answer. Each man is different and the circumstances as to why they are doing what they are doing are different as well. Even other men have a hard time figuring it out.

For instance some guy will be married to a knockout drop dead gorgeous woman. The kind of woman that can get just about any man she sets her sights on. Walk down the street with her and watch the heads turn.

And yet he will still cheat on a woman like that. Go figure.

No there is no one size fits all answer but you definitely have to rank the following at the top of any list when trying to understand why.

Because It’s There

Think the movie Fatal Attraction. Michael Douglas’ wife was only gone for the weekend. Not even the full weekend for crying out loud. He couldn’t control himself for two days?

No. The opportunity presented himself and like most philandering husbands he just knew that he wasn’t going to get caught. Wham bam thank you mam and we will never see each other again. He didn’t realize until it was too late that his one night stand was with a graduate from Straitjacket University.

In the real world the thinking is along the same lines. It’s here for the taking and who has to know?

You Da Man

It’s not enough that their wife or girlfriend loves them, says she loves him and proves it to him on a regular basis. That’s all well and good but frankly it just won’t do. So what’s the solution? Get a lot of women to keep boosting your ego libido.

The reality is this is not a solution either. It’s like an alcoholic saying just one more drink and that will be the end of their drinking. Until they wake up tomorrow and the cycle start all over again. If a loving wife or girlfriend that really truly cares can’t boost a guy’s self confidence then a bevy of women who are only really there for one night stands won’t be able too either.

Gone With The Breeze

He wants out of the relationship. The honorable thing to do would be to go to the wife or girlfriend and say something sophisticated like, “I want out of the relationship.”

However many men find this too difficult so they convince themselves that the easiest thing to do is cheat their way out. They want to get caught in the hopes that the wife or girlfriend will end the relationship. But what if she turns violent or worse forgives them and says she will do all she can to make the relationship work out better than before? A lot of guys haven’t thought that far ahead.

Because I Can

This is different from “because it’s there”. Because it’s there is a matter of convenience. Because I can boils down to I want what I want and I could care less who it hurts.

Think Bill Clinton. When he was President he was the most powerful and scrutinized person on the planet. But the guy wound up embarrassing himself, humiliating his wife and daughter and was in jeopardy of getting thrown out of office. All for an intern.

When he was asked a few years later why he would risk everything for the thrill of it all he answered in three words: “Because I could.”

While the average guy who cheats is not going to get impeached by Congress more than a few understand perfectly what Clinton meant because that’s their excuse as well. It’s a selfish way of saying, “So what? Now deal with it.” Unfortunately many women do.

postheadericon I Want To Get Married – A Blueprint To Bewitch A Man And Invoke Him To Fall In Love With You

Whereas every fellow is a unique individual, they actually embrace pretty much the same prerequisites in terms of women. You need to first define what that person is enthusiastic about and what he frowns upon.

You most definitely need to know his tastes and attitudes and the like, in order to charm a guy to fall in love with you. This is the only way that you will be able to define the needed tactic for drawing him to you.

So, let’s uncover the guidelines to impress some body and compel him to fall in love with you.

Be perceptive and considerate

Gentlemen go for ladies who are generous and thoughtful to other individuals. Kindness is definitely an attribute that really draws men to women.

Be neighborly to the folks around you. In order to persuade a guy to fall in love with you, display a charming personality, be humble and be sure to thank individuals who do something for you.

Let’s say, you go out on a date with him, grin and be polite to your waiters when they serve you. Don’t be discourteous or disrespectful to anyone.

Refrain from insulting anybody, it will worry the guy and surely damage your chances of dazzling your fella.

Physical attractiveness

Though beauty typically is not the infinite criterion to entice a guy, I know it can without a doubt, carry a substantial amount of weight. A stunning woman is a sure thing to create a noticeable impact on the guy she takes a shine to.

Yet, a gal should never want to come across as a model. A lady should ideally dress attractively and make an effort to look her best. She will want to be comfortable in her clothes and should really dress in accordance with her body type and age.

Internal appeal is more fascinating than superficial attractiveness. Your unpretentious nature and beliefs are really more inviting to him than your physical appearance.

Self-assurance is something that you definitely can’t do without. Customarily, gents are more fascinated with independent and cool headed females with a sunny presence and pleasant personality.

Make him fall in love with you

Guys favor challenges and feel a real need to pursue girls who come across as bewildering to them.

Definitely remember that guys hate to speak about their prospective aspirations while you are dating. You should not talk about marriage or the future currently.

You shouldn’t let that topic sneak into your conversation and you’ll want to let him realize that you are clearly not interested in marriage at this junction in time.

It will allow him to become very curious about you and he will keep on speculating over what’s going on in your mind.

If you go along with these guidelines to bewitch a man and invoke him to fall in love with you, you are likely to draw guys like a magnet.

Your man is not going to merely be attracted to you, he is going to cherish you and be more than willing to commit to you.

postheadericon Learning How to Attract a Guy in Simple Steps

Most guys boast them as simple. However, this is quite the opposite and usually are very complicated. Under such situations, it often becomes difficult for any girl or woman to find the right guy. Luckily, the process of finding is no longer elusive. There are a few important factors that women could consider to come across the right guy.

Attitude is the key player in building the chemical between two people. Women have to work out on their attitude to make sure that can easily attract a guy. It is necessary to understand that every guy has a different taste. Women do not have to assume that men always look for women with big breasts. Relaxing is essential for any women before they venture out to look for the right guy. This is the first lesson that would be learning in how to attract a guy. Staying positive and maintaining the cool is important. Smile is a wonderful asset and creates a positive vibe to the opposite sex. The ability to keep others happy and in good company is a major attraction point. Creating positivity is a real charm and women benefit the same in return.

Confidence is the other area that women have to work hard. It is possible to stay confident when a person believes in self and loves self. Learning to love self is an art. It creates a wonderful atmosphere and easily attracts the opposite sex. Building and maintaining a good impression is essential. Learning to limit complaining and acting positively in any situation is another area that women should concentrate. Being proud of self accomplishments is the need of the hour. This will help build confidence level and paves path in attracting the right guy. This is a critical stage in learning how to attract a guy.

Past comparison will be helpful to look at the present change in attitude. Creating a goal will help elevate the level of confidence and other weak areas. Working constantly on improving self will help any individual to develop all the necessary qualities that will easily attract any guy. However, it is necessary to maintain the momentum for the rest of the life. Apart from relationships, these developments also help build a good reputation in the workplace. Body language is another area that women have to work with to maintain the momentum when they converse with a guy. Eye contact, honesty, open minded and humorous have immense attracting capabilities.

Learning how to attract a guy will help women who think they would never find one. The reasons could be numerous, but with constant development, it is possible to come across the guy that a girl has always wished to be with. Appearance also plays a good role in attracting a guy. In fact, appearance is the first element that catches the attention of the guy. Other elements follow the suit and give an opportunity for a girl or a women to keep the magic alive that helps build a good relationship with Mr. right.

postheadericon How to Completely End an Emotional Affair?

Are you struggling with emotional affair recovery? Does your wayward spouse need to know how to end emotional affair? If your trust has been shattered by emotional infidelity, you’re probably wondering how your spouse can ever earn it back…

This article is specifically about the actions that the wayward wife needs to take in order to completely sever the extramarital relationship and undeniably show you, the faithful husband, that you’re her first priority.

How to End Your Wife’s Emotional Affair in 6 Steps

None of these steps are optional. If your unfaithful wife cannot do these things for you, then something is wrong and emotional affair recovery is out of the picture.

At the same time, if you really want your marriage to move forward then you need a threshold over which you say “okay, I believe you and I love you, let’s move on”. In other words, your wife needs to prove to you that she’s done with the emotional affair, but you also need to know how to forgive an emotional affair.

Are we on the same page? Remember, these steps are for your wife, not for you.

Great! Let’s get started:

Step 1. She Must Accept Responsibility, Even if Marriage Wasn’t Perfect

The most common excuse for an emotional affair is “you never pay attention to me”. Conversely, the most common reason that women give for falling in love with another man is “he paid attention to me and he ‘gets’ me”.

However, an unhealthy marriage is NOT an excuse to cheat. Furthermore, an emotional affair will CREATE distance in your marriage.

In other words, it’s no coincidence that your spouse suddenly seem inattentive when there is another man being very attentive. It is literally impossible to have a healthy marriage while one spouse is in love with someone else.

If your marriage was so bad that your wife felt completely unloved and rejected, that is not a problem to solve through an affair. Instead, as with any problems in marriage, you bring it out into the open and address it for what it really is.

Your wife must admit that she was having an emotional affair, she must accept responsibility for it, and she should show remorse for what she’s done to you.

Step 2. Sever the Relationship… Period

Once your wife has taken responsibility for her infidelity, the next step to end an emotional affair is a complete severance of the extramarital relationship.

It doesn’t matter if it’s an old high school friend she’s had for 20 years that only recently turned into something more, or a coworker that she’s only known for six months… The relationship is over.

Period.

If your wife is unwilling to let go of the relationship, or if she wants to remain friends with the other man, then that is an unacceptable problem. If a “friend” is more important than recovering your marriage, then what is that supposed to tell you as the husband? It means she doesn’t really want to end the emotional affair.

Your wife must be willing to sever the relationship completely if she is serious about ending the emotional affair. The next 2 steps will address how to do that.

Step 3. The No Contact Letter

A No Contact Letter is exactly what it sounds like… A hand written statement (important!) from your wife to the other man that the relationship is over.

This letter shouldn’t be emotionally charged. It is a simple, firm statement that the relationship is over, that it will not begin again, that it has had an adverse effect on her relationship with you, and that her marriage is now her top priority.

This step is very important both for you and for your wife. It should give you peace of mind that your wife is willing to do this, and it gives your wife the peace of mind and security that comes with letting go. Ideally, the No Contact Letter is the nail in the coffin of the emotional affair.

Step 4. Physically Get Away

Naturally, to permanently end an emotional affair, your wife needs to physically get away from the other man.

It doesn’t matter; she MUST cut him out of her life completely. Whatever it takes is consequence of the emotional affair.

There are two reasons that this is so important: (A) it will be very difficult for her to get over the emotional affair if she continues to be exposed to him, and (B) it will be nigh impossible for you to rebuild trust with your wife when you know she’s still occasionally spending time with him.

Step 5. Accept Transparency (and Don’t Lie About it)

Your wife needs to accept that you will require full transparency for the next few weeks to the next few months.

This means a few things. You need to be able to…

  • Access her e-mail account
  • Access her Facebook account
  • Read through her text messages
  • Listen in on phone conversations
  • Monitor her whereabouts throughout the day

In situations where your wife has lied to you before, you may even require cell phone tracking to monitor her calls, text messages, and whereabouts. Or you might require computer key logging to monitor what she’s doing online and who she’s talking to.

Drastic? Yes.

Necessary? Yes.

Although not everybody needs to go to the full extent (i.e. cell phone and computer tracking).

Step 6. Consider Marriage Counseling (Optional)

It’s no secret that I do not like marriage counseling. Far too many couples rely on marriage counseling as the default medicine for marriage problems.

Let me be clear: marriage counseling is only a good idea when…

Both spouses truly desire a better marriage, but have a singular problem that is difficult to resolve.

There is infidelity involved and you need a safe-place to say exactly what’s on your mind and work through your trust issues.

There are psychological problems inhibiting your marriage, such as bipolar disorder or anxiety. In this case, independent counseling is usually a better place to start.

So, if you are really struggling to get over the trust issues you have with your wife, marriage counseling may be a good place to address those. Independent counseling may also be helpful.

Congratulations! Next Comes Forgiveness…

If you’ve made it this far, go ahead and pat yourself on the back. If your wife has been willing to learn how to end an emotional affair with you, the future of your marriage looks very bright. It means that your wife is genuinely dedicated to renewing your marriage.

postheadericon Getting Back With Your Ex – Give Your Relationship A Second Chance

Are you looking for sure-fire methods to get back with your ex?

For the past few months, your relationship had been going through a rough patch. Communication had ceased. You no longer opened your heart to your partner. Days were filled with constant unexplained arguments. Not only this, you sensed that your boyfriend or girlfriend did not display the same affection and understanding he or she did earlier; there was something else on their mind. When things got worse, instead of talking it out, you both decided to walk out of the relationship. A relationship of months and years crumbled in a matter of a few minutes.

Sometimes a break-up in a relationship is justified. However, in most cases break-ups are a result of trivial issues. Such relationships deserve a second chance and can be mended provided you give them a chance.

So, how are you going to resolve things and be successful at getting back with your ex? You can find out below.

Clues to indicate you should not work at getting back with an ex

  • Trust is the main element in any healthy relationship. If your boyfriend or girlfriend has betrayed your trust in the past, it may be a hint you should not reconsider reviving this relationship.

  • You can try to re-establish communication with your ex, but if he or she does not respond favorably, it implies you should move on.

  • If your ex does not intend to improve the things that happened between the two of you, to learn from mistakes or change for the better, it is a sign that this relationship is better ended.

  • Abuse should not be tolerated at all. If you walked out of a relationship because your ex was physically, mentally or emotionally abusive, I strongly advise that you wrap up your past relationship and move on.

Tips on getting back with your ex

  • You will have to start with self grooming. Be neat and tidy in your appearance. Dress well. Be confident about what you do and how you look. Working on yourself will make you look attractive and be a good distraction as you overcome your grief. You should project a better public self image and try to show that you are not needy.

  • The next step to getting back together with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend is reflection of your past relationship. Think about how things were and what lead to this break-up. If it was your attitude or a specific personality trait that caused problems, you can change and make improvements.

  • Wait for a few weeks before you re-establish communication with your ex. You can contact your ex informally either by means of an email, text message or instant message.

  • Decide on a day when you can meet each other in person. On the day of the meeting dress up in clothes that your ex liked and wear his or her favorite perfume. Your aim should be to look prim, proper and appealing.

  • Your attitude, talk and actions should be casual but not the “I don’t care”type. After a few meetings over a cup of coffee, lunch or dinner, you could broach the subject of your break-up. You can probably reconcile and ask for forgiveness for any of your actions that caused trouble in your past relationship.

  • Instead of pushing him or her to get back together, start by being good friends. Indulge in activities you enjoyed doing as a couple. It will bring back past memories and you’ll get closer.

  • Finally, when you think that the time is right, you can go ahead and ask your partner about the possibilities of getting back together. If they agree, fantastic! You can work at cementing and strengthening your relationship. However, you should also be prepared for the worst. It is not certain that your ex will respond positively. If they don’t want to rekindle the relationship, it is OK; you can continue to be good friends.

postheadericon Coming Face To Face With the Two Timing Spouse – Being Careful Is A Must

Did you recently discover that your mate has been unfaithful? If regrettably the answer is yes you are more than likely ready to confront them regarding their two-timing ways. Of course there is no reason not to. With that being said, you must be careful. There are occasions when confronting a cheating spouse may become scary.

If you choose to confront your current unfaithful significant other on your own, you might want to be extra careful. In fact, you may want to refrain from on the confrontation. Is your spouse known for her or his temper? If so being by yourself when facing up to them may not be the most effective way to accuse them of adultery or even revealing to them the proof that you possess. This is especially true if you intend to ask for a divorce. If you can go ahead and get a trustworthy close friend, family member or police officer with you when you decide to face up to them.

Also, never ever confront a cheating wife or husband or even make any accusations in front of your young ones. It doesn’t make any difference if your children are infants or adolescents. Young people understand infidelity and you do not want to drag them into this mess any further than you have to. Newborns have no clue as to what you are talking about nevertheless the voices might be alarming and too much to handle.

If your spouse is verbally or physically abusive or both then be especially careful. If you intend to end the marriage due to cheating, perhaps it is best to do this all at once. As stated previously it is best to have someone with you when confronting your mate but if you choose to go it alone and things get dicey then take action immediately. Leave the house fast and don’t return unless you have someone there to back you up. Again it is advisable to consider a police person. Never put you in jeopardy when dealing with a cheating wife or husband.

Another situation that you should be cautious when accusing a cheating spouse is if you are not ready to leave them. Of course, you will have every right to be the one to stay and your cheating mate leave but life unfortunately does not always work that way. If perhaps your mate will not leave your home even if it’s temporary then are you ready to move out? How about the children if you are a dad or mom? If your main goal is to end the relationship with your cheating spouse be sure to have a plan to move you and your children out of the house.

As a final point, reconsider facing a disloyal mate if you don’t have any kind of evidence. Have you ever spotted your husband or wife on a date with another? Did you spot the telephone or even credit card statements with dubious or unusual activities? If you haven’t, it will be best to be patient until you finally gain proof. Your spouse could deny having a marital affair knowing you don’t have anything concrete to go on. Or they may not be cheating on you and an accusation saying they are will only put you in the doghouse.